Happiness The Greatest Thing That We Possess
Happiness, Happiness, the greatest gift that I possess!!
The immortal words of the great Ken Dodd, I guess happiness is something that we all strive for, but how do we achieve it, what is it???
There have been extensive recent studies that help us to understand happiness and importantly what techniques may work for us, so let's take a look at some of these.
Gratitude Gratitude Gratitude!! Being grateful for the good things in our life has the most powerful happiness boosting effect.
Being grateful makes us happier, it will improve relationships and can make you a better person and make life better for everyone around you. A technique that could help with this gratitude building could be to take the time every night before you go to bed to write down three good things that happened to you during the day. Writing things down, encourages the brain to acknowledge those moments, and as we write them down we remember how that felt and get a boost of wonderful serotonin.
There's something to be learnt from this, in that the reverse can be true. When we keep a track of the bad things that happen we 'relive' those events and that can make us miserable. It's so much more beneficial to train the brain to see the positives in life, rather than identifying the negatives, recording what we are grateful for will help to 'teach' our brain to see the positives. Enjoy the moment and savour those happy memories. Being able to be completely absorbed in the moment is one of the secrets to achieving true happiness.
Spend as much time as you can with the people you like, be social and develop strong relationships. It's no secret that not spending time with the people we love is something that we regret the most so spending time with friends and loved ones makes us happier.
Do the things that you are good at and that make you happy, and strive to become the best version of yourself. We rarely do the things we really want to do but very often will do the things that are easy, sitting on the sofa in front of the TV alone, very rarely makes us happy, we can be happiest when we are learning a new skill or developing the skills that we have, being busy in the things that move us towards a goal can beat off sad thoughts and feelings. Take the time to consider the very best possible version of yourself and move towards that. The journey can often be as satisfying as the end destination.
Finally, be optimistic!!! Pessimism may soften the blow of bad news but it really isn't worth, expecting things to turn out negatively very often produces that negative result.
Research suggests that people with positive imaginings are significantly happier, overconfidence in fact increases productivity and the ability to work in a team. Self-deception has been linked with stress reduction, a positive self-bias and increased pain tolerance. All of which enhances motivation, performance, and importantly HAPPINESS.
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